Conflict

1.) Pick a church leader and research what he/ she has said about conflict resolution. Below share at least two of your favorite findings. 
Gorden B. Hinkley gave a talk titled "The Need for Greater Kindness" in his talk the first thing he shared regarding resolving conflict in this talk is the need for forgiveness. He reminded us that it is the lords place to judge and we are to merely forgive and forget. He then he went to talk about conflict within the church and how many people are hung up on conflict within the church and out of that I got two things - 1 conflict within the church should not change what you believe and if you put your testimony first than conflict should not effect it. And secondly there is so much good being done in this church and this world and we should not get caught up in the negativity but in the good.  
2.) What is the difference between destructive conflict and constructive conflict?
Destructive conflict  is when nothing gets resolved in the conflict and the two sides walk away more conflicted than before the conflict happened. This results from people not going into the conflict with the right attitude and they fight only for their side. A constructive conflict is where both sides learn something and they resolve the conflict in a way that best fits the needs of the group.Both sides walk away from the conflict satisfied and with new knowledge and insight and with a feeling on closure that the conflict is resolved in a healthy manner. 
3.) Do you currently embrace good conflict or evade it? Analyze your current way of managing conflict and find two ares of improvement.
I embrace good conflict. I am of the attitude that everyone is happier if everything is out in the open and I would always rather have things said to my face than held in or said behind my back. Therefore in things such as family and with my roommates I am sure to facilitate good conflict. I though am not perfect and sometimes conflict does not come out as constructive as I would like it. I come from a family of debaters and competitive people. Therefore we all sacrifice nothing and like to come out a winner. I need to have a better attitude when going into conflict to facilitate a compromise where both sides are happy with the outcome instead of taking pleasure in the fact that I "won" the conflict. In conflict you do not win unless the conflict is permanently resolved. And when there is a winner and a loser conflict is bound to happen again.