Relationships

Sorry- I forgot to post this last night. 

1. Think of three relationships that you wish were at the significant stage, but currently are not there. For each relationship you want to improve write one goal about how you will improve that relationship. Make sure the goals are specific. Each goal should include what relationship you want to improve and a specific action you want to take to improve that relationship.

One relationship that is not in the significant stage but I would like it to be is my relationship with me and one of my best friends from home. She was a childhood best friend but we have gone our separate ways over the years. At one time we were in the significant stage but we are not there anymore. My goal is going to be text her at least once a week for the next couple of months to try and bring back closeness. 

Another relationship I would like to get in the significant stage is my relationship with is my relationship with my cousin. We have been best friends since childhood and now I am at BYU and I have the chance to really get close and integrate our lives together. I would like to get better at that. My goal is going to be to have her over to my apartment more. 

The third relationship I would like to move into the significant stage is my relationship with my younger sister. She is only 12 and it has been hard to stay super close when we are living apart. Obviously our relationship is significant because we are family but I want to get to an even better place. My goal for this relationship is to spend quality one on one time with her when I am home over winter break. 
2. What can you do to remind yourself to achieve the goals you made in question 1?

To remind myself of the goals I set in question one is to write them down and put them somewhere I will see everyday. I need to remind myself of what I want the end result of my actions to be so I am motivated in the process. A relationship cannot become significant overnight and it might have to go through a couple of stages before it becomes truly significant. I need to remind myself that it is a process and any improvement is a good improvement.

3. Tom Holmoe shared many different ideas about developing relationships. Share one of your favorite ideas from his lecture. Why did you like this?

One of my favorite ideas Tom Holmoe shared in his lecture was the idea of being a fire-lighter in the people you come into contact with and to surround yourself with people that are fire lighters. I found this really interesting because at first I thought it was a no brainer to surround yourself with people that build you up but then I thought about all of the people I come into contact with and I realize I allow myself at times to be surrounded by fire fighters. They do not blatantly and obviously tear each other down, but they do not inspire the best in each other. Sometimes this is funny and we enjoy laughing and mocking each other but surrounding myself with these people is not going to build me up in the long run. I should try and bring a fire lighter attitude to the group.