1. Describe your motivation in each of these areas: school, personal goals, social, and family.
In school my motivation is in my goals. I know I want to go to law school and I know the tier of law school I would like to get into therefore I know the level of work I need to put it. I have realistic goals that I am passionate about and the thought of achieving them keeps me motivated.In my personal goals such as eating healthier or working out more etc. I set goals and use rewards. I can't eat sweets if I didn't go to the gym that day and other things like that. I also write down my progress. In the social category I do the things that make me happy and I have fun doing. My motivation in in the social area is to have fun and meet people I enjoy being around. Therefore I put my best self out there in hopes I will meet the kind of people I want to meet. In my family I set goals that are going to make me happy, therefore I stay motivate because the things that I am working for make me happy. I also find happiness in the journey. Just because a family goal of mine is to get married, does not mean that I will not be happy until that happens. I am happy in the steps I am taking to achieve that goal and in being happy with the family I have now.
2. How can you motivate others as a leader in the following areas: school, work, family, or social?
In school I think I can motivate others by sharing organizational tips and emphasize to them that being motivated in school comes from setting goals and working towards a future you are passionate about. In work I think motivation comes from doing something you are passionate about. More than being motivated by money I think people are motivated by doing something they care about. In my family we motivate each other by reminding each other of out eternal goal to be together for eternity in the celestial kingdom. Every action we take is striving for that goal. In social goals I can motivate others by being friendly and social and showing that to meet the kind of people you want to meet you have to be the person you want to be.
3. Explain the motivation style of your assigned leader for Monday's lab.
The person I had for Monday's lab was Hillary Clinton. Hillary Clinton is the current Secretary of State and the former State Senator of the state of New York. Her motivation style is that she is very at peace with the idea that people either love or hate her. She is strong in her beliefs and motivates her followers by being consistent and striving for more power. She is a strong women who has lots of female followers, she motivates them by being a strong feminist example and showing that a women can plays a mans political game.
Monday, October 29, 2012
Wednesday, October 24, 2012
Conflict
1.) Pick a church leader and research what he/ she has said about conflict resolution. Below share at least two of your favorite findings.
Gorden B. Hinkley gave a talk titled "The Need for Greater Kindness" in his talk the first thing he shared regarding resolving conflict in this talk is the need for forgiveness. He reminded us that it is the lords place to judge and we are to merely forgive and forget. He then he went to talk about conflict within the church and how many people are hung up on conflict within the church and out of that I got two things - 1 conflict within the church should not change what you believe and if you put your testimony first than conflict should not effect it. And secondly there is so much good being done in this church and this world and we should not get caught up in the negativity but in the good.
2.) What is the difference between destructive conflict and constructive conflict?
Destructive conflict is when nothing gets resolved in the conflict and the two sides walk away more conflicted than before the conflict happened. This results from people not going into the conflict with the right attitude and they fight only for their side. A constructive conflict is where both sides learn something and they resolve the conflict in a way that best fits the needs of the group.Both sides walk away from the conflict satisfied and with new knowledge and insight and with a feeling on closure that the conflict is resolved in a healthy manner.
3.) Do you currently embrace good conflict or evade it? Analyze your current way of managing conflict and find two ares of improvement.
I embrace good conflict. I am of the attitude that everyone is happier if everything is out in the open and I would always rather have things said to my face than held in or said behind my back. Therefore in things such as family and with my roommates I am sure to facilitate good conflict. I though am not perfect and sometimes conflict does not come out as constructive as I would like it. I come from a family of debaters and competitive people. Therefore we all sacrifice nothing and like to come out a winner. I need to have a better attitude when going into conflict to facilitate a compromise where both sides are happy with the outcome instead of taking pleasure in the fact that I "won" the conflict. In conflict you do not win unless the conflict is permanently resolved. And when there is a winner and a loser conflict is bound to happen again.
Gorden B. Hinkley gave a talk titled "The Need for Greater Kindness" in his talk the first thing he shared regarding resolving conflict in this talk is the need for forgiveness. He reminded us that it is the lords place to judge and we are to merely forgive and forget. He then he went to talk about conflict within the church and how many people are hung up on conflict within the church and out of that I got two things - 1 conflict within the church should not change what you believe and if you put your testimony first than conflict should not effect it. And secondly there is so much good being done in this church and this world and we should not get caught up in the negativity but in the good.
2.) What is the difference between destructive conflict and constructive conflict?
Destructive conflict is when nothing gets resolved in the conflict and the two sides walk away more conflicted than before the conflict happened. This results from people not going into the conflict with the right attitude and they fight only for their side. A constructive conflict is where both sides learn something and they resolve the conflict in a way that best fits the needs of the group.Both sides walk away from the conflict satisfied and with new knowledge and insight and with a feeling on closure that the conflict is resolved in a healthy manner.
3.) Do you currently embrace good conflict or evade it? Analyze your current way of managing conflict and find two ares of improvement.
I embrace good conflict. I am of the attitude that everyone is happier if everything is out in the open and I would always rather have things said to my face than held in or said behind my back. Therefore in things such as family and with my roommates I am sure to facilitate good conflict. I though am not perfect and sometimes conflict does not come out as constructive as I would like it. I come from a family of debaters and competitive people. Therefore we all sacrifice nothing and like to come out a winner. I need to have a better attitude when going into conflict to facilitate a compromise where both sides are happy with the outcome instead of taking pleasure in the fact that I "won" the conflict. In conflict you do not win unless the conflict is permanently resolved. And when there is a winner and a loser conflict is bound to happen again.
Monday, October 15, 2012
Communication
1.) Why is communicating powerfully and prolifically a crucial part of leadership?
A big part of leadership is sharing your message with those you lead. Without communicating powerfully and prolifically you are not expressing your message clearly. You need to communicate the message you want to the world to know clearly. It is important to have one message that everyone knows. Mis-communication is an issue because people will not see an uniform message coming from those you lead. For example, everyone from the administration, to the professors and the students everyone knows the message of BYU. That way the public perception of the university has a higher chance of being what the university wanted it to be.
2.) Throughout your life you will serve in various leadership roles everywhere from family roles to work roles to church roles. Everyday you communicate what you believe to those around you through your words and your actions. Todd and Joe expressed how important it is that your messages are rooted in what you believe. In the future, how can you make sure what you communicate is rooted in your beliefs?
Something that I learned from my parents is that the most important message we communicate is the message of the gospel and that everything we do needs to be rooted in that message. The way we conduct ourselves in all we do needs to reflect our beliefs. In the work place that means being fair, honest and Christlike to those we work with. We should not get involved in work practices that are not inline with what we believe. An important thing to do is make the your beliefs the center of your family and home. For children it is important to see that their parents center their lives on the gospel that way they grow up knowing the real message their parents want to communicate. I think that if you center your life around your beliefs the message you communicate will be rooted in your beliefs.
3.) Todd and Joe gave us some great hints to help leaders communicate powerfully and prolifically. Develop a step-by-step process that you can follow in order to communicate your desired message to those you lead?
The first step to communicating your desired message to others is to plan and know the message you want to share with others. Without a well thought through message your message can be criticized and misread. You want to make sure your message is well thought out. Then you want to share your exact message with those you lead. To make sure everyone is on the same page is a crucial aspect. Next you want to find a way to always share your message. Todd and Joe said to answer peoples question but answer it with what you want to say. Make sure your message gets out there as much as possible.
A big part of leadership is sharing your message with those you lead. Without communicating powerfully and prolifically you are not expressing your message clearly. You need to communicate the message you want to the world to know clearly. It is important to have one message that everyone knows. Mis-communication is an issue because people will not see an uniform message coming from those you lead. For example, everyone from the administration, to the professors and the students everyone knows the message of BYU. That way the public perception of the university has a higher chance of being what the university wanted it to be.
2.) Throughout your life you will serve in various leadership roles everywhere from family roles to work roles to church roles. Everyday you communicate what you believe to those around you through your words and your actions. Todd and Joe expressed how important it is that your messages are rooted in what you believe. In the future, how can you make sure what you communicate is rooted in your beliefs?
Something that I learned from my parents is that the most important message we communicate is the message of the gospel and that everything we do needs to be rooted in that message. The way we conduct ourselves in all we do needs to reflect our beliefs. In the work place that means being fair, honest and Christlike to those we work with. We should not get involved in work practices that are not inline with what we believe. An important thing to do is make the your beliefs the center of your family and home. For children it is important to see that their parents center their lives on the gospel that way they grow up knowing the real message their parents want to communicate. I think that if you center your life around your beliefs the message you communicate will be rooted in your beliefs.
3.) Todd and Joe gave us some great hints to help leaders communicate powerfully and prolifically. Develop a step-by-step process that you can follow in order to communicate your desired message to those you lead?
The first step to communicating your desired message to others is to plan and know the message you want to share with others. Without a well thought through message your message can be criticized and misread. You want to make sure your message is well thought out. Then you want to share your exact message with those you lead. To make sure everyone is on the same page is a crucial aspect. Next you want to find a way to always share your message. Todd and Joe said to answer peoples question but answer it with what you want to say. Make sure your message gets out there as much as possible.
Monday, October 8, 2012
Teamwork
Teamwork!
1.) Which of the five dysfunctions do you personally have a hard time implementing in a team setting? What can you do to better facilitate against falling into this dysfunction?
I have the hardest time implementing the trust aspect into my teams. I have a hard time letting other people take important responsibilities to other members of my team because I believe that they will not compete the responsibility or I believe I can do it better. I have always had a clear opinion on how I want things done and I need to learn to be more accepting of other peoples opinions and styles and realize that my way is not the only or even the best way to complete something. I think I could facilitate against dysfunction by going into group projects with the attitude that everyone will be trustworthy and complete what you assign them. Dividing the tasks clearly and evenly and making sure everyone knows that what they are doing is important and integral to the success of the team will causes everyone to step up and work together which is the overall goal of teamwork.
2.) As a leader, what do you think are some obstacles you may run into when facilitating teamwork?
As a leader I believe that conflicting personalities as well as a lack of trust or negative conflict are the biggest issues faced when trying to facilitate team work. Conflicting personalities can lead to more conflict if you do not learn to manage and use the personalities to their strengths. I think making sure all personalities opinions are heard can help make sure no people have conflicts. For examples introverts could easily feel as if their opinions are not heard because extroverts might share theirs first or more publicly. Or thinkers and feelers might not learn to compromise and use both of their strengths. I think it is important for a leader to know his or hers teams personalities and play them to their strengths.
3) Personality Test Results: ESTJ
1.) Which of the five dysfunctions do you personally have a hard time implementing in a team setting? What can you do to better facilitate against falling into this dysfunction?
I have the hardest time implementing the trust aspect into my teams. I have a hard time letting other people take important responsibilities to other members of my team because I believe that they will not compete the responsibility or I believe I can do it better. I have always had a clear opinion on how I want things done and I need to learn to be more accepting of other peoples opinions and styles and realize that my way is not the only or even the best way to complete something. I think I could facilitate against dysfunction by going into group projects with the attitude that everyone will be trustworthy and complete what you assign them. Dividing the tasks clearly and evenly and making sure everyone knows that what they are doing is important and integral to the success of the team will causes everyone to step up and work together which is the overall goal of teamwork.
2.) As a leader, what do you think are some obstacles you may run into when facilitating teamwork?
As a leader I believe that conflicting personalities as well as a lack of trust or negative conflict are the biggest issues faced when trying to facilitate team work. Conflicting personalities can lead to more conflict if you do not learn to manage and use the personalities to their strengths. I think making sure all personalities opinions are heard can help make sure no people have conflicts. For examples introverts could easily feel as if their opinions are not heard because extroverts might share theirs first or more publicly. Or thinkers and feelers might not learn to compromise and use both of their strengths. I think it is important for a leader to know his or hers teams personalities and play them to their strengths.
3) Personality Test Results: ESTJ
Sunday, September 23, 2012
It's About Time
1.) Tamara talked about how leading your life is like conducting an
orchestra and producing a beautiful song. Are there any parts of your
life that should play louder in the current song your are conducting?
Are there any parts that you should remove from the
orchestra to make your song more beautiful or perfect?
There are many different components to the orchestra that is my life. The constant balance of school, friends fun, family, the Gospel and all the other things that go on in my life on a daily basis keep me busy trying to juggle many commitments. I think one area that there is always room for improvement in in my life is the Gospel. No matter how much time I do spend I could and should always spend more. Everything else I do should come second to that, and while I try to live my life this way it does not always end up being this way. I am constantly trying to balance my school work and my social life. I have yet to master that balance. I am constantly trying to fit everything in my life that I want. In my life I don't think there are any areas that need to be taken out completely but in areas like the amount of time I spend watching TV or on my computer should be scaled way back. They are unnecessary aspects of my life that take away from the time I could be using for more beneficial opportunities.
2.) There are many things that we need to accomplish in this life. Tamara talked about how the best way to enjoy life and still get everything done is through "peacefully hurrying". Why did she suggest we "peacefully hurry"? What are some actions that will help you to "peacefully hurry" in your life?
Peacefully hurrying implies that you do not waste time. You do things efficiently but not with stress. Tamera suggests we live this way because it is never okay to waste time or do something slower than it should be but we should also not get caught up and overwhelmed trying to get everything done that we need to. Actions that can help you hurry peacefully are making small manageable to do lists. They keep you efficient and organized but keeping them small means you won't get overwhelmed. It is also important to have priorities in life and to not rank every task at an equal importance. Hurrying peacefully is being efficient while taking things one at a time.
3.) Time management can be difficult at times, especially during school. Make three goals about time management that you would like to apply to the rest of your semester. Make sure these time management goals reflect your values. How will you hold yourself accountable to these three goals?
The first time management goal I set for myself if to do my homework when I get home for school not at night. Save TV and fun time for the evening and do my homework first. That way I can enjoy the time at night spent with my roommates and increase the amount of sleep I get. The second goal I set for myself is to do 15 minutes of scripture study in the morning. Not only will this help me to have a better day it will eliminate the possibility of my skipping my scripture study because I am too tired or busy at night. The third goal I set for myself is to work on making my to do lists more manageable. I always make to do lists that are way too long and could not possibly be completed with the number of hours in a day and then when I do not complete them I feel discouraged. By making my to do lists more manageable I will do the tasks with higher quality and I will feel more accomplished. I will hold myself accountable by reviewing how I am doing with my goals once a week in a week planning session.
There are many different components to the orchestra that is my life. The constant balance of school, friends fun, family, the Gospel and all the other things that go on in my life on a daily basis keep me busy trying to juggle many commitments. I think one area that there is always room for improvement in in my life is the Gospel. No matter how much time I do spend I could and should always spend more. Everything else I do should come second to that, and while I try to live my life this way it does not always end up being this way. I am constantly trying to balance my school work and my social life. I have yet to master that balance. I am constantly trying to fit everything in my life that I want. In my life I don't think there are any areas that need to be taken out completely but in areas like the amount of time I spend watching TV or on my computer should be scaled way back. They are unnecessary aspects of my life that take away from the time I could be using for more beneficial opportunities.
2.) There are many things that we need to accomplish in this life. Tamara talked about how the best way to enjoy life and still get everything done is through "peacefully hurrying". Why did she suggest we "peacefully hurry"? What are some actions that will help you to "peacefully hurry" in your life?
Peacefully hurrying implies that you do not waste time. You do things efficiently but not with stress. Tamera suggests we live this way because it is never okay to waste time or do something slower than it should be but we should also not get caught up and overwhelmed trying to get everything done that we need to. Actions that can help you hurry peacefully are making small manageable to do lists. They keep you efficient and organized but keeping them small means you won't get overwhelmed. It is also important to have priorities in life and to not rank every task at an equal importance. Hurrying peacefully is being efficient while taking things one at a time.
3.) Time management can be difficult at times, especially during school. Make three goals about time management that you would like to apply to the rest of your semester. Make sure these time management goals reflect your values. How will you hold yourself accountable to these three goals?
The first time management goal I set for myself if to do my homework when I get home for school not at night. Save TV and fun time for the evening and do my homework first. That way I can enjoy the time at night spent with my roommates and increase the amount of sleep I get. The second goal I set for myself is to do 15 minutes of scripture study in the morning. Not only will this help me to have a better day it will eliminate the possibility of my skipping my scripture study because I am too tired or busy at night. The third goal I set for myself is to work on making my to do lists more manageable. I always make to do lists that are way too long and could not possibly be completed with the number of hours in a day and then when I do not complete them I feel discouraged. By making my to do lists more manageable I will do the tasks with higher quality and I will feel more accomplished. I will hold myself accountable by reviewing how I am doing with my goals once a week in a week planning session.
Sunday, September 16, 2012
Visions and Goals
#1- I would like to be a leader in multiple aspects of my life, both in my home and in my career.The type of leader I would like to be is a selfless one, and one that truly loves those she serves. To be a leader in my home my goals have to begin with being married and having children. But I can start now preparing by practicing patience, organization and trying to learn the leadership qualities my own mother possesses. I want to be a mother who is a leader of her home, most people view the father of the family as the leader, and there is much truth to that, but in my home nothing got done without my mother. In my career I would like to not only be successful but to love what I do. I would like to be a lawyer, so the achieve the vision on being a leader in that field, I have a lot of work ahead, such as graduating both undergraduate and grad school and passing the bar. Those are necessary steps to be a lawyer. Once those steps are completed my goal is to find a cause I am passionate about and be a leader for good, fighting for the cause. So many lawyers hate their jobs, that is because they are in it for the money not for the love of those they serve. I want to be a leader by loving what I do. That is the way to be both successful and happy.
#2-A good leader, like Brother Bond explained is one that helps other people achieve their goals. As a leader, you cannot help others achieve their goals without first knowing what their goals are. Knowing the people you lead is a crucial aspect to being a good leader. You cannot get them where they want to go without knowing where they want to get. After you know where they would like to end up it is your responsibility to help them get there. As a leader you are in a position where you can train and teach people. Teach them the skills necessary to progress and reach their goals. Do all that is in your power to facilitate the achieving of goals of those you lead.
#3-Having goals and a plan for how you are going to achieve them is a crucial aspect into getting anywhere in life. Whether you set goals for a day, a year or a lifetime you must set them and then make a plan. Then you must get going on your plan. You should have a general plan of how you are going to achieve your long term goals, and then break that plan into steps and complete things one step at a time. It is important to have a vision of what your future should be like, and then a plan on how you are going to get there. Even the largest task can be doable when broken up into smaller steps. All visions are achievable when worked at a little each day.
#2-A good leader, like Brother Bond explained is one that helps other people achieve their goals. As a leader, you cannot help others achieve their goals without first knowing what their goals are. Knowing the people you lead is a crucial aspect to being a good leader. You cannot get them where they want to go without knowing where they want to get. After you know where they would like to end up it is your responsibility to help them get there. As a leader you are in a position where you can train and teach people. Teach them the skills necessary to progress and reach their goals. Do all that is in your power to facilitate the achieving of goals of those you lead.
#3-Having goals and a plan for how you are going to achieve them is a crucial aspect into getting anywhere in life. Whether you set goals for a day, a year or a lifetime you must set them and then make a plan. Then you must get going on your plan. You should have a general plan of how you are going to achieve your long term goals, and then break that plan into steps and complete things one step at a time. It is important to have a vision of what your future should be like, and then a plan on how you are going to get there. Even the largest task can be doable when broken up into smaller steps. All visions are achievable when worked at a little each day.
Thursday, September 6, 2012
Divine Centered Leadership
#1- Brother Cox talked about divine centered leadership. He talked about how true leaders, are servant leaders. They don't lead for the power or fame, they lead to serve and better the lives of those they lead. He gave many examples of phenomenal leaders who were truly servants to those they lead. The greatest example he gave was that of the Savior. He is truly the example of servant leadership. I hope to incorporate more of a service attitude in my leadership roles.Whether it is how I lead my younger siblings and the example I set for them or doing my church calling with an attitude of service instead of the attitude that it is a burden. I want to be a better visiting teacher. To set aside more time to visit with those I serve instead of trying to get in and out as fast as I can so I can get on with the other things going on in my life. I need to remember that being a leader isn't always an position with a title and clearly laid responsibility. You can be a leader in everyday life by serving those around and influencing all who you come in contact with for good.
#2-My personal definition of servant leadership would be to serve as Christ served. He was the perfect example of servant leadership. He was the King of Kings, the literal Son of God and the Savior of the World. The world should have served him but he would not allow it. He was on earth to serve and change lives. Reading the story of Christ washing the feet of the disciples is always a touching story. He loved who he served and served them not like it was a burden but a privilege. That is what I think the true definition of servant leadership is- loving who you serve and serving them like it is your privilege.
#3- An example of a servant leader in my own life is my father. He is a selfless bishop, a loved boss, a respected and involved community member and a dedicated father. He never stops working, worrying about and contacting the members of the ward. He is the President and CEO of a philanthropic organization and I have never seen a better liked boss. He truly is loving and personable to all those he meets. Whether it is the building janitor, his secretary or his coworkers and clients he loves them and because of that they love him back. His record of community involvement ranges from elected state leadership positions to being on multiple boards and organizations in our community. He is a constant reminder of being a leader, not for power and respect, but to make a difference in causes you care about. The area of my fathers leadership that I respect the most is how dedicated he is to our family. He is the busiest man I know, yet still takes time to edit my papers, go to all our sporting events and teach us how to live our lives like the Savior lives. My father truly embodies the principle of servant leadership in everyday life. He is the best example I can imagine of someone who gives there all to better the lives of others.
#2-My personal definition of servant leadership would be to serve as Christ served. He was the perfect example of servant leadership. He was the King of Kings, the literal Son of God and the Savior of the World. The world should have served him but he would not allow it. He was on earth to serve and change lives. Reading the story of Christ washing the feet of the disciples is always a touching story. He loved who he served and served them not like it was a burden but a privilege. That is what I think the true definition of servant leadership is- loving who you serve and serving them like it is your privilege.
#3- An example of a servant leader in my own life is my father. He is a selfless bishop, a loved boss, a respected and involved community member and a dedicated father. He never stops working, worrying about and contacting the members of the ward. He is the President and CEO of a philanthropic organization and I have never seen a better liked boss. He truly is loving and personable to all those he meets. Whether it is the building janitor, his secretary or his coworkers and clients he loves them and because of that they love him back. His record of community involvement ranges from elected state leadership positions to being on multiple boards and organizations in our community. He is a constant reminder of being a leader, not for power and respect, but to make a difference in causes you care about. The area of my fathers leadership that I respect the most is how dedicated he is to our family. He is the busiest man I know, yet still takes time to edit my papers, go to all our sporting events and teach us how to live our lives like the Savior lives. My father truly embodies the principle of servant leadership in everyday life. He is the best example I can imagine of someone who gives there all to better the lives of others.
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